About Yourself vs. Toward Yourself

In conversation with Tim Ferris, Elizabeth Gilbert recalled a framing device that she learned in IFS (internal family systems):

How do you feel about yourself vs. toward yourself.

It’s such a simple reframing, but one that—if you really sit with it for a moment—can completely change the tone of your self-talk.

That’s it. That’s the whole post. It’s been a day where I needed to try it, and maybe it’s been a day where you should try it too.

Try to be as kind to yourself as you would be to others.